Back in November, I wrote a post called “A War Between Body, Mind, and Spirit.” I want to play on that a little bit more this week, as I had some interesting responses to the email.
One subscriber wrote back and told me that they hear too much whispering going on behind them on their own battlefield.
Another wrote back about how getting older and looking back can get scary. They appreciated the insights they often found when reading my emails and blog posts.
I also had one person ‘unsubscribe.’
That used to bother me.
Now I think of it as someone who is no longer my audience, my tribe, and perhaps the whispers hit too close to home. Either way, unsubscribes no longer touch me in the negative.
On the flip side, out of all the people who opened the email, at least two got something from it. Now, that touches my heart.
So, why is this post called —
While I was preparing to write this week’s email, I thought about last week’s post and how I’ve felt since that “battlefield” coaching session. I thought about how it played out and where I stand today compared to the day of the session.
Then my mind jumped to a metaphor for the comparison.
I love metaphors!
So, hump day is Wednesday. It’s said it’s not as “depressing” as Monday and not as “exciting” as Friday.
Interesting, it just hit me! There’s a story behind this for me, but I’m going to keep that one to myself.
Okay, I digress.
If I’m not depressed and I’m not excited, then it must be Wednesday.
The reality is that the coaching session and all the other hard work I did before the session and what I’ve done since that session are paying off.
The veil of sadness of these past months is lifting and coming off, and now I can see brighter days ahead. I can see through, up and over, and around the “whispers.” The battlefield has been cleaned up, and the mind and body are no longer at war with each other.
If you are dealing with a veil of sadness, whispers, or battlefields, here are some tips for getting through the war zone.
- Rest – get plenty of rest; your body needs it. When we are rested, it makes life more bearable.
- Hydrate – that seems so simple, but it isn’t. When you are hydrated, you will reduce headaches, reduce depression, fatigue, and anxiety.
- Eat healthy – when the body is fueled with proper nutrients, you’ll feel better overall.
- Read self-help books – only you know what’s happening, so select a book that speaks to your situation and read it, embrace it, and do the homework the book offers. No sense reading it if you aren’t willing to do the work.
- Write in a journal – journaling is one of the quickest ways to get your thoughts out and on paper.
- Allow yourself to be sad – for goodness’ sake, don’t let anyone take this away from you. It’s essential to FEEL your emotions, so you can move through them and not get them stuck in your body.
- Listen to music – even if it’s that mushy stuff that makes you sad. However, something to cheer you up might be of better use here.
- Put the situation into context – what’s true, what’s not true, what do you know for sure, put the “what ifs” away, and focus on what is. Then ride the wave of emotions and declare doing so as a victory.
There are many other things you can do. The list above is just to get you started if you need it.
Here’s the thing, when dealing with sadness, grief, whispers, or battlefields, people will often make statements of, I’m depressed. Is it depression, or is it sadness, grief, etc.? Give it time and see if you can pull the veil off.
In the meantime, seek the help of a coach or counselor who can help you lift the veil. It’s what I did, and I’m a coach. I did all the work I could do solo and sought my coach for the rest.
Does that mean I won’t ever have another battlefield? No, but I do know how to get through should I need to.
In love and health,