Do you find yourself wanting to lose weight and struggling to do so? Do you feel sluggish throughout the day? Do you step on the scale and think OMG?
You seriously aren’t alone. I’ve heard so many women say; I’m too fat. I hate how I feel. I want to lose weight. I’m tired of being this way. I’ve heard it from family, friends, clients, and people I have met at social gatherings. Heck, I’ve even said it myself. The struggle is real.
More often than not, the women I contact with are passing judgment on themselves and feeling shame because they aren’t meeting their personal vision of living a healthy life.
How do we change so that we can lose that unwanted weight? What does it take to get up off the couch and go for a walk? What does it take to get in the gym and workout? How do we get the scale to show us results that don’t result in OMG!
Before I answer those questions, let’s talk about resistance to change.
Change is hard for many people, even when they say they want it. Why is that?
Fear of the unknown – Change means a different direction, and if you don’t know what it’s going to be like on the other side of what it is you say you want, you may decide it’s too scary.
Dealing with change – If you don’t have a plan or a direction, change is difficult. If you have some guidance and support, it will be more comfortable, and progress is more likely.
Different stages of change – There are five different stages of change. Which stage you are in will help determine what your next steps are. (Awe, another blog post ideas is forming with this one)
Familiarity, safety, security, and connection – If I change now, what does that mean for my life? It’s easier to maintain the status quo. There’s a sense of comfort doing the same thing you’ve always done. Although not making changes will give you the same results.
Old patterns and beliefs are sometimes hard to find – If you are stuck in an old habit or are dealing with limiting beliefs and aren’t sure how to overcome them, you’ll be more likely to resist change.
So, you can see that getting on board with the idea of change is what it’s going to take to get that scale to budge. To get up off the couch and go for a walk, or (insert here what it is you’re not doing).
So, how do we change?
Perform an honest evaluation of yourself – For change to happen, we must tell ourselves the truth. Be realistic about what is working well and what is not. When we are honest, we grow, and positive change is reinforced.
Breakthrough the denial – Denial does and always will limit the possibility of change. By admitting weakness, you can face it head-on and work towards changing patterns.
Right-Size Your Reality – Self-evaluation isn’t easy or fun. Yet, while undergoing self-evaluation, let go of shame and blame. We don’t have to live with the way things have been. We can change the way things are. The point is this: We can love ourselves while we make changes.
A motive is everything – Without a motive, we are doomed to fail. Have a dream worthy of your expression and to experience. What do you love enough to change for? Your kids, your health, or perhaps your work is enough reason to change.
What you resist persists – Ruminating on what you don’t have is energy wasted and keeps us stuck in the past.
Be realistic – Set the bar high, but not so high that it can’t be achieved. We want our dreams to give us pause, to make our palms sweat, and to create excitement.
Commitment – A goal/dream is more significant when it is of our own. One created by another increases the risk of non-compliance.
The 80/20 rule – Let food, water, sleep, good habits, right relationship with yourself and others, and movement be guided 80% of the time and reserve the other 20% for unexpected stuff that shows up.
Have an accountability buddy – When we are held accountable, we are more likely to take action. Find a friend, a coach, a program, anything that will help keep you accountable for the actions that will move you forward.
Celebrate – Celebrate the small victories along the way to keep the motivation high and the dream alive and enjoy your lifelong journey to your “becoming.”
Earl Nightingale was quoted saying, “Success is when YOU achieve a quality of life that YOU want for yourself. It doesn’t have to be money, but money can be part of it. It doesn’t have to be material things, but material things can be part of it”. I would add, it doesn’t have to be weight loss, but weight loss can be part of it. It doesn’t have to be exercise, but exercise can be part of it.
Five weeks ago, six women on a self-discovery journey started the program One Size Fits None, Right-Size Your Reality. They have made new friends. They have made friends with themselves. They have discovered what was holding them hostage. They have declared victory over the scale, the weight, the lack of commitment to themselves, and who they wanted to become.
I’ve got a proposition for you. If you are ready to face the challenges, get up and get moving towards what you say you want, I’ve got a program that will help you do just that. One Size Fits None, Right-Size Your Reality will help you face your fears. It will give you a starting point. It will help you shape your dreams and goals to fit your reality of health and wellness. It will get you moving, eating healthier, and have a great awareness of YOU.
Meet me where you are currently at with all the resistances you have, and let’s see if together we can’t help you declare what your dreams are and how you can make them a reality!
It’s never too late to start.